Love Songs
It is supposed to be better to have lost the love that we had then never to have had it at all, right? Isn't that what we have heard repeated over and over again? While suffering in the vast and lonely emptiness that is lost love, no words like those are going to be welcomed. It doesn't even seem reasonable or realistic when we are in the grips of despair. At these times it only seems as though it would have been much better if we had indeed not had the love that we are now mourning.
Cathartic love songs
As we well know, songs, and especially love songs take on different meanings and significance for different people. Many of us tend to have a few of what we call "our" love songs. They came to have the meaning they do through our experiences and special moments that we have had with our partner or partners. When the love that we had made us see everything through rose tinted glasses we cannot hear our love songs enough, but when that time is passed and we feel as though a pert of us is dying, then love songs turn on us and become the enemy. No matter how good of a job we are doing at keeping our feelings inside and not breaking down into crying fits, love songs will definitely blow our cover. So we avoid them and shun all of the CDs that contain the songs that have meaning for us - they mighty even have been destroyed as part of the process, either way, we do not want to hear the likes of them for some time.
But, in reality, the best way to get passed something is to face it head on and plow through it. Even if it hurts and the very thought is painful, we need to let ourselves mourn the death of anything. Allowing ourselves to wallow a bit in our pain is often just what will get you through the pain with less damage. Don't ignore the pain, let it out. Love songs can help you do that. Turn on the songs that mean the most to you and give yourself the luxury of a good, drawn-out, healing cry.
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